HOSEI WOMEN - THANKFULNESS

Thankful, that is what we should be. Thankful for being alive. Thankful for the year 2015 and all we went through in it. Thankful of all the ups and downs. Thankful for every month, day and hour that we lived and enjoyed in the year. Thankful we are among the ones that witnessed the end of the year.

We all have different and common reasons to be thankful for, but if we do not consciously activate a thankful mode, we might not be as thankful as we should be. No matter what we're going through presently. No matter whether we feel thankful or not, no matter whether we were able or unable to fulfill all our set goals for the year, no matter the pains, losses and disappointment faced in the year 2015, no matter the friends that became "frienemies", and the ones that stayed true, we should be thankful.

HOSEI WOMEN - LIFE IS WORTH FIGHTING FOR

There are consequences for every of our actions, whether good or bad. There is nothing we do in life that has no consequence. That is why it's very important that before we do anything at all, we must think it through and decide whether we are ready for the corresponding consequence(s) of our action(s).

There is a price to be paid for every decision we take. There are no free lunches in life. Nothing good comes easy, it's the importance of a thing that determines whether we are willing to pay the price for it.

Nothing is free in life. Freedom, confidence, empowerment, success, achievement, healthy relationship/marriage, well mannered and trained children, fabulous career, comfortable lifestyle, happy life, etc, everything comes with a price. The willingness and determination to pay the price for what we want is what determines whether we are able to get it.

HOSEI WOMEN - EVERY DISAPPOINTMENT IS A BLESSING

 

I was taught by my parents, while growing up, that every disappointment is a blessing. I had a difficult time understanding and believing this. How can something so devastating and upsetting like disappointment be good, much more, being a blessing. My skepticism grew in bounds when I started having personal experiences with disappointment. By the time I was in my late teens, I concluded that the saying is just to console and reduce the negative effects of disappointment on those that experience it. I kept experiencing disappointment upon disappointment in my life, that I thought I was going to be a failure in life. For every positive and good thing that happens to me, I experienced countless disappointments.

Yet, instead of failing, my life kept getting better. Every disappointment gave me wisdom, direction, strength, courage, and determination. Every disappointment I experienced gave birth to bigger and better opportunities. By the time I was in my early to middle twenties, I stopped fearing disappointment, even though I still considered it an enemy. I still cry and become inconsolable for long periods after experiencing disappointment in my life. And even when something better comes my way and I'm comforted, I still think back on the lost opportunity that caused my disappointment with regret and pain.

HOSEI WOMEN - DEAL OR NO DEAL

There is a television show I love watching called Deal or No Deal. It's a show where risk taking is the order of the day and only the bold hearted and courageous get the best from it. Contestants are offered different monetary compensations at different stages in the show in lieu of staying on in the game and holding on to the possibility of winning the highest possible prize. The contestants that are lion hearted, bold and courageous hold on till they get the best possible offer, while the chicken hearted ones settle for less than they are worth. On the other hand, some over-confident contestants stay longer than they should in the game and end up losing totally or they suffer devastating loses. 

Life is like the Deal or No Deal television show. In life, we offer and are offered deals on a daily basis. Deals that will determine the quality and outcome of our lives. Deals on what to be, how to live, who stays or leaves our lives, the kind of people in our lives, the influence and control of culture and religion in our lives, the amount of power we give others in our lives, the amount of peace, happiness and wellness in our lives, the choices we make, the offers we give and accept or reject etc.

HOSEI WOMEN - ESSENCE OF CHRISTMAS

 

I woke up this morning thankful and happy to be alive on this Christmas day. Two days ago, a younger friend called me to ask whether I'm interested in buying Christmas chicken, for she is selling. I told her I'll love to, but I have no money to buy. She came over to my house yesterday with a big chicken and some foodstuffs. Though I have no money in my bank accounts, though I have unfulfilled dreams, though my life is not perfect, I am full of happiness and peace. For God has been so good to me. I have blessings money can and cannot buy.

I am alive and well. I am living the life I want. I am true to myself and all around me. I am secured in my Father's love.

We tend to overlook the things we have and concentrate on the things we are yet to attain as human beings. And that is a big mistake. For a person that does that will never be able to enjoy and appreciate the good things in his/her life. He/she will always be striving for new heights, never enjoying or being content with life.

HOSEI WOMEN - STRENGTH FROM WITHIN

 

A lot of us, when we are unhappy about one thing or the other in our lives, or when we do not even know the cause of our unhappiness, look to other people; spouses, family members, friends, colleagues, our children and so on to fix us up and take away our unhappiness. We believe that it is the responsibility of these people to step in and make us happy since we do the same for them.

While it's okay to have expectations of people in our lives, we should be primarily responsible for our own happiness and well-being. You owe yourself the duty to know what makes you happy, the things that cause you unrest, things that disturb your peace, things that rob you of confidence, faith, hope and joy. The kind of people that are compatible and beneficial to you, those that are not. The things that excite you, gladden your heart. Situations that bring out the worst in you and those that bring out the best in you, the things you can tolerate, those you cannot, and so on and so forth.

HOSEI WOMEN - ADOPTION

 

We deny ourselves the opportunity of loving and being loved because of cultural reasons that make no sense as waiting parents. It is believed in our part of the world that until a woman gives birth to children, she cannot enjoy the joy of being a mother. Even when she does all a mother does to children under her care, she is regarded as a care giver or a steward and not a mother. Because of this discriminatory and narrow minded mentality, a lot of waiting parents are discouraged from adopting children. They waste precious years they could have used to love and be loved if they adopt a child, to languish in yearnings words cannot utter.

There are lots of healthy, beautiful and precious children in need of parents love. In need of a home where they can have a feel of family life. Children that will fill the vacuum in the lives and hearts of waiting parents as they are in turn given the opportunity to grow up enjoying a mother's and father's love. But this seems impossible with the prejudices our society harbors against adoption. Waiting parents are advised against adoption with comments like - "There is no way someone else's child will be a true and loyal child to you", "You will only labour in vain. When the time to enjoy the fruits of your labour is ripe, someone else will enjoy it", "Adopted children are high risk because of the unknown blood line in them. They may be from a family of lunatics, diseased or flawed in one way or another".