HOSEI WOMEN - STRENGTH FROM WITHIN

 

A lot of us, when we are unhappy about one thing or the other in our lives, or when we do not even know the cause of our unhappiness, look to other people; spouses, family members, friends, colleagues, our children and so on to fix us up and take away our unhappiness. We believe that it is the responsibility of these people to step in and make us happy since we do the same for them.

While it's okay to have expectations of people in our lives, we should be primarily responsible for our own happiness and well-being. You owe yourself the duty to know what makes you happy, the things that cause you unrest, things that disturb your peace, things that rob you of confidence, faith, hope and joy. The kind of people that are compatible and beneficial to you, those that are not. The things that excite you, gladden your heart. Situations that bring out the worst in you and those that bring out the best in you, the things you can tolerate, those you cannot, and so on and so forth.

When you know all these, then you have a duty to ensure you make your life happy by facilitating things, events, people and occurrences that will bring out the best in you and make you happy, while you down play, eradicate, remove, block, prevent and minimize the occurrences and impacts of those that are undesirable. No one can make you as happy as you can make yourself. Even the person with the best intentions to rock your world needs your guidance and collaboration to successfully do so.

I used to suffer a lot of misery, sadness and disappointment in the past whenever people I go out of my way to make happy fall short of my expectations in being there for me in my time of need. It took me a long time to understand that it is only when I place a demand on myself that I want to be happy and go ahead to enforce it, that other people join force with me to make me happy. Nobody can defeat the happiness of a person that knows how to make himself or herself happy, for such a person's happiness is not dependent on other people. They can only add and contribute to the person's happiness. 

 
True happiness is self generated and people enhanced. When we understand and practice this truth, we'll stop over-burdening our relationships and loved ones with unrealistic expectations, and know the expectations that are healthy and legitimate to insist on and enforce. We'll also be privileged to educate, assist and encourage your loved ones in the act of giving you happiness. You become a master of your life, fully involved and active in ensuring your happiness and dealing with unhappiness in your life. Stop waiting for other people to see to your happiness. When they do, it is well. When they don't, it will still be well, for you are there, able and willing to make yourself happy.

Life is to be enjoyed and not to be endured!