Dual Responsibility In Marriage

My people, come and let us reason together. Can one hand lift a load? Can there be movement with one leg? If the answer is no, then why do some people think that in marriage, only one person should be responsible and accountable? Why do some people preach that only one person should do all the loving, giving, sacrificing and submitting?
It is high time we tell ourselves and our children ( both male and female) that a successful marriage is the joint responsibility of both husband and wife. Any marriage where only one person does all is a slave camp.
 No one should be made to lose his or her humanity by being made a modern day slave in the name of marriage. A man that is not responsible and accountable to his wife is not entitled to same from his wife. Any woman that is not responsible and accountable to her husband is not entitled to same from her husband.
 And when one party falls short of his/her duty, it's not okay to expect the failed partner to bear all, except he or she chooses to do so willingly. In that instance, free will is involved. There are no hard and fast rule about marriage, it's all about free will and the agreement of the people involved.
 Marriage is for the two people in it first and foremost. It's not for just one partner. Decisions should be made in agreement, putting into consideration the interest of the two parties. If you are married to someone that does not care about your interest, happiness or feelings, you do not have to accept that. You cannot be happy being subjected to that psychological abuse constantly.
 Marriage is to be enjoyed and not to be endured. Marriage is not supposed to be a slave camp. Enjoy your marriage, don't endure it. Set a good example for your children. Make your life worth living by making it a good life. Be a wonderful spouse and insist on enjoying the same treatment from your spouse. I wish you all the very best.
Life is to be enjoyed and not to be endured!