Love Is A Combination Of Giving And Receiving

I always wonder whenever I hear some men complaining about their wives. Because as a woman I know how vulnerable and eager to please a woman's heart is towards the man in her life. How tender and mailable a woman's heart is towards a true lover. 

There is nothing a woman cannot do for her man if he is true to her. No price is too high, no pain is too much, no sacrifice is too great. 

Even some women with irresponsible husbands are still faithful and loyal to their men, just because they are married to him, not to talk of husbands that claim to be dutiful and loving. 

This therefore brought a question to mind. Is it that these men are lying against their wives? Or there are women that are the exception to the rule? 

The rule of women being loving, dutiful, faithful and loyal to their men. The rule of women being good managers and keepers of the home. 

It could be that it's actually a combination of the two theories. I mean, some women can not just stand being with an irresponsible and useless man. They would rather be alone than to stay in such a marriage, especially if the man is bent on staying irresponsible. I'm one of such women. Life is about rub my back, I rub your back. There are no free lunches. We have to be useful to one another before you can have the best of me. What's the point in giving you my all when you lack the capacity to appreciate my worth? To give, you have to receive. To receive, you have to give. This rule operate even in the marriage relationship. The idea of a wife or husband doing all the giving and the other spouse enjoying the privileges without reciprocating is from the pit of hell. 

Call yourself any name, if you only take and you do not give back, you are worthless. And it will do your spouse good not to keep investing in you, as bitter as that truth may sound. Everyone wants to experience love in life, most especially from the people they are married to. It's only fair to walk in love with someone that walks in love with you. 

So when I hear men complaining about their wives, I always tell them to examine themselves and be sure they are not falling short in their responsibilities before they condemn their wives. For apart from the few exceptions, women are naturally conditioned to walk in love with the man that holds their hearts. If a woman fails to do so, that means the man is not handling her heart well.

Life is to be enjoyed and not to be endured!