I used to think attracting the love and attention of another person has to do with one's physical looks and attractiveness. I have however been set right by the new evidences before me. Instances where I see physically unattractive persons successfully holding unto the partners in their lives while some very beautiful and physically alluring ones are picked and dropped by different partners without getting the commitment of any. This issue baffled me for a long time till I finally understood that what keeps two people attracted and committed to one another is their personality, nature, mindset, character, disposition. Not their body, even though they will automatically love and accept each other's bodies with the total package.
Two people that are connected in their souls will have no problem connecting or staying connected physically, even when there is a drastic change in one or both partners' physical appearance. Fat, thin, ugly, dark and so on becomestandards of beauty to such people. For they have ceased to place worth and value on each other based on physical looks, but on the inner connection they share. Such people find one another beautiful because of the well defined convictions and persuasions they share. The standards and principles they live by is exact or very similar. Love and compassion flow between them with ease and no conscious prompting.
They don't intimidate, manipulate, violate or threaten one another either directly or indirectly. There is simply no need for it. And even on the rare occasion that the need for such arise, the thought of being mean to one another is unbearable to both of them. And also, they are both very aware of the fact that any act of negativity towards the other will only destroy the special bond they share. They both know that the other has enough self love to negate every force of negativity or hatred from external sources/forces, no matter where it comes from.
People that share an inner connection are not threatened by each other's success or the successes of other people. They'll rather celebrate each other and together, celebrate people around them. They are self assured and secured.
These two people will never impose their will on one another, but will always win over each other in love and understanding. Though they are not afraid to show their needs to one another, they do not perceive each other as needy. Though they give each other space to have a life of their own, they consciously give each other the freewill to leave or stay, yet they cling and forever hold unto themselves.
While I like to connect with people through their physical appearance, I've learnt to appreciate most the people I connect with through their inner beauty and attractiveness.
Life is to be enjoyed and not to be endured!
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