HOSEI WOMEN - YOUNG LOVE IS SWEET

 

It's so sweet and captivating whenever I observe a budding love relationship between an innocent boy and girl. They are so tender and caring towards one another. The boy's only desire is to please the girl, while the girl loves the boy not like a meal ticket but for his person. Any silly chick that tries to get close to the boy is sent away with a glance hot enough to fry an egg. They care not about patriarchal stereotypes and discriminatory roles given to the two sexes. They delight in one another, rendering helping hands to lift each other. They are unselfish in the expectations placed on one another, always quick to apologize whenever one hurts the other. These young ones are protective of one another, having a "we" against "them" attitude in the face of conflict with external forces. They keep no secret from one another, eager to share and experience life together. They give true meaning to the promise "in sickness and in health" in times of adversity and problems. They are willing to go to any length to see to each other's comfort.

Then they grow up in a patriarchal society where the boys are taught to hide their emotions/feelings (except the feeling of anger) to be a man. The boys are taught to see women as inferior. They are brainwashed into seeing women as chattels and objects of possession, to be used for pleasure and human labour. The boys are taught to be egotistical, insecure and threatened by intelligence, beauty and strength in a woman. They are groomed in the skills, methods and ways of breaking the women in their lives till she loses all confidence, will and belief in herself. They are turned into self-centered and cruel beings with an entitlement mentality. (Only those with feminist thinking parents/guardians/benefactors/mentors are saved from the poisonous influence of patriarchy).

The girls are taught to feel weak, dependent and incomplete. They are encouraged to get an education so as not to cause the man they marry the embarrassment of an illiterate wife, not so as to attain great heights and success in their careers. They are informed that their husbands will be made uncomfortable by being "too successful". The girls are brought up to be mindful of their physical looks, appearance and dressing more than the development of their brains, the expansion of their minds and the discovery of their talents. They are made to believe that the only purpose for their existence is to please their husbands, tend to their needs, have children and take care of the home. Any other dream is subject to the approval of the husbands. Only those fortunate to be brought up and mentored by feminist - thinking parents/guardians/benefactors/mentors escape the damaging influence of patriarchy. And later on in life, when the boys have become men and the girls are women, they meet, marry and the problems start; problems of abuse, violence, resentment, alienation, separation and divorce. Problems they didn't have before the influence of patriarchy and patriarchal mindset. Problems that will only be solved by the acknowledgment of the evil in patriarchal mentality and the reorientation of both the men and women under its control.

Life is to be enjoyed and not to be endured!