There is an error I see a lot of women making and I'll like to draw attention to it. I see women making investments in their men in every way possible but neglect to invest in their own lives. It is a big error to give what you do not have in life. It's like a poor person living on cassava flakes borrowing to feed her mate's expensive cuisine. As noble and praise worthy as it is to love and walk in love towards your man, there is nothing noble and praise worthy in not extending the same love to yourself.
To use your resources to build another person's life, while you remain on the same level of development is not love. It is self hatred and misplaced priority. It is lack of vision, it is a big blunder that you will most likely regret later in life. Just because you are a graduate does not mean that is the end of personal development in your life. There are lots of certification programs, professional qualifications you can do to enhance your worth in the corporate world.
As a business person, there are many profitable ventures you can expand into apart from what you are doing presently.
As an individual, do you have any landed property in your name? Gone are the days that a woman cannot own property. Some women have fought with their lives to have the law changed for women to be able to buy properties in their name. Now that women are allowed to own properties, have you made used of this privilege? Must it be only the man's name that should be on the family properties? Do you not know that the money you have is not only to be used to empower your loved ones but yourself also? What is the good in all your hard work if you fail to empower yourself continually?
It is our responsibility to see to our self development and advancement. We have to stop looking to men to do for us what we should do for ourselves. Men love having an accomplished woman as wife. Those that don't are not worth having. If we don't brace up and continually improve on ourselves, we do more harm than good to our relationships and to ourselves. Some women are stingy and close minded to themselves. They can spend their last penny on their husbands and children but will not pay to attend a conference that will add value to their life. If it is not free, they won't be a part of it.
No woman! You've got to start loving and giving to yourself. A lot of the problems we have as women in our relationships and lives will automatically vanish once we learn to start walking in love with ourselves. Travel around the world, learn about other cultures, expand your horizon. Always aim to be better. Be an inspiration to your man and loved ones. How will you teach your daughters to love and invest in themselves if you do not lead by example. We keep blaming men for not respecting us. Respect is earned and not demanded, Women of Substance.
Life is to be enjoyed and not to be endured!
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