I was at an event recently where a middle aged man said
with confidence that a woman that exposes her cleavage in a dress or
shirt is issuing out an invitation to any interested man to molest or
rape her. I was beyond shocked. My reaction wasn't because of the
absurdity of what the man said alone, but the fact that many other men
in the audience smiled and nodded in agreement! I hear parents and people generally justifying rape on the
ground that the dressing of the victim is the reason for the crime. If
the victim had been decently dressed, the rapist would have controlled
himself.
Are we saying that the self control, self discipline and
morals of men disappears at the sight of a cleavage? Then why is it that
other men see women dressed in the same way but do not rape them?
I can
imagine some people thinking men have different levels of control. But
the truth is rape has nothing to do with self control or discipline.
Rapists don't rape because they couldn't control their sexual urges.
They don't rape because of love. They don't rape because of indecent
dressing (please keep in mind that I'm not justifying or excusing
indecent dressing).
Rapist rape to control, oppress and damage their victims.
It's a dehumanizing power play perverts engage in, to dominate and
exercise control over other human beings they perceive to be weaker and
vulnerable. If indecent dressing is the cause of rape, why are
indecently dressed powerful women not being raped? Why won't a rapist
rape the scantily dressed wife/girlfriend of a military man? How come he
can control his urges with indecently dressed women that are in a
position to ensure he pays for his crime?
The crime of rape is not committed because the perpetrator
lacked control, but because he wants to control, dominate and oppress
someone he considers helpless, vulnerable and weak. Someone he can take
advantage of without paying for it. The intention of a rapist is to
damage, control, hurt, cheat, dehumanize, humiliate, oppress and torture
his victim(s). No action or inaction of a rape victim can provoke rape. If
it can, all men will be rapists. But we know that it is not all men
that are rapist. A lot of men cannot rape a woman even if they wish to
do so. The thought of inflicting pain on another human being is
inconceivable to them. Not under any circumstances.
So it is an irresponsible man with a hidden potential to
commit rape that will shift the blame of the crime of rape on to the
victim of the crime. And it is only women that have been brainwashed to
believe a lie that blame victims of rape for the crime. No one deserves to be raped. Man or woman. Men are being raped nowadays by homosexual men. There is nothing as horrible as being sexually defiled and
violated. A person that rapes is a criminal that is less than an animal.
Even animals do not rape. It's time for us to be truthful with
ourselves. Anyone that rapes is a murderer. Such people kill their
victims without actually taking their lives, but turn them into living
dead persons, until they are helped to deal with and recover from the
trauma of the abuse suffered.
The parents of perpetrators that shield their sons from
facing the consequences of their evil actions will pay for it. And they
will be paid by the same children they have helped turn to
monsters.The parents that refused to get justice for their daughters
and neglect to get professional help for them to deal with and recover from
the rape experience will pay for it. They are paid by the same daughters
that they failed and betrayed by not doing the right thing for them. The government officials that are paid to prosecute rape
offenders, but fail to do so will pay for it. In ways that if they
know, they will stop obstructing justice, but do their jobs as they are
expected to.
The victim that hides the fact that she was raped for fear
of being stigmatized or blamed is going to pay for it. For she is
denying herself the chance to get the necessary help she needs in
dealing with the rape and recovering from all the negative effects of
the traumatic experience. She might never have a healthy and satisfying
sexual or intimate relationship with the opposite sex throughout her
life, even in marriage.
To overcome any problem in life, there is a need to face
the problem, address the problem, deal with the problem, confront the
problem. Only then do we master the problem and find a lasting solution
to it.
To be continued. . .
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