I have come to realize that in life, right/good and wrong/bad is subjective outside religious beliefs. In a particular religion, what is accepted as good and what is accepted as bad are well defined by the religious books. However, we have in the world, many different religions with different, sometimes contradicting beliefs. We also have people that are not practicing any religion whatsoever. The standard used to determine whether something is right/good or wrong/bad is influenced by a person's personal beliefs, religious or non religious.
It's therefore wise for people of the same belief to marry one another. There will be no conflict of beliefs whatsoever if this is done. Probably, there will be no more divorces also. For the man and woman will have no issues with one another's lifestyle, choices and behaviour. Even if they have issues with anything, it will be easily resolved with the application of their mutual belief system. A lot of conflicts, problems and disappointments will be avoided if everyone will make a commitment to marry someone with the same or very similar beliefs as to what is right/good and what is wrong/bad.
And that is why sincerity and openness is a must in the period of courtship. There is this trend of people deceiving the person they want to marry, with the intention of revealing all after the wedding. The rationale behind this is that the deceived partner will have no choice but to overlook the deception since they are already married. That is a big mistake people.
Deceived spouses are now walking out with no regrets and regard for what people will say. And those that stay, stay only physically. They are hardly ever committed to that relationship/marriage. Therefore, if we want the real deal in marriage, deception is a no-no. Let a polygamist marry someone that believes in polygamy. Let a one mate per time person marry someone of like mind. Someone who cannot tolerate unfaithfulness should marry a person with the same conviction.
The problem however is that we compromise on our convictions and standards out of desperation and impatience. Because we want to avoid the pressure from family, the society and ourselves, we rush into marriages that will only give regrets, pain and dissatisfaction. I say with all conviction that such marriages are not worth it. It's better to patiently wait for the real deal. No matter how long it is, please wait. Forget your age, biological clock and wait. The real deal is worth the wait.
Marriage is not something to rush into or compromise on if you want to have a good marriage. I've been there and I will not go into it again except I know it is the real deal. Marriage is only good when it is the real deal with no pretense, abuse and regret. Marriage is beautiful when there is love, respect, agreement, understanding and shared beliefs/convictions. To have those, it can only be between two people that have the same belief of what is right/good and what is wrong/bad.
Life is to be enjoyed and not to be endured!
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